Relationship take-1

Relationships or the modern version of how they are delineated, are replete with ostentatiousness and pretentiousness. One is bound by the covenant of "pleasing", thereby, in most cases, indulges in  "sugar-coating" and partial dishonesty which is undesired, but is a sad necessity. This arises out of the need for constant goodwill and "smoothness" between the involved parties. Somehow, as a person who is not in a relationship, I find this notion amusing and redundant, not to mention, sad and pathetic.I say this because, to me, a relationship of note, is aways that between equals. Ideally speaking, an example would be the relationship between Howard Roark and Dominique Francon in "The Fountainhead". The aforementioned example is an ideal-case scenario. i.e it is a slightly fantastic, slightly exaggerated version of the unconditional understanding that I deem necessary in a relationship.
     In some cases (I'm given to understand this through a friend of mine), apparently, one party indulges in forms of said pretentiousness, in order to achieve his/her end through the seemingly ubiquitous methods of Reverse-psychology and guilt-pricking. (Freud's theories anything but redundant huh? lol)