It might be appalling to millions that one can even consider selfishness a virtue. I was directed into this line of thought after reading Ayn Rand's "The Fountainhead". Ayn Rand, propounding her philosophy of objectivism, says that selfishness is indeed a virtue and that the utmost of all the duties of man is the duty toward himself.
Throughout the ages, mankind has been lead to believe that a life for others, is the most virtuous. any act to one's own end, has been looked at as an abomination. For instance, eating chocolate, an act of self-indulgence, was labelled a sin in the middle ages. Similarly, any act of self-indulgence, although at no one else's cost, is looked at with contempt.
One might argue for the contrary that as a society, we are all dependent on each other. Here, i would like to say nothing more than a simple analogy. A person goes to a doctor because, he/she is sick; not because, he/she wants to do the doctor a monetary favour. Building on this concept, Ayn Rand illustrates, in her book, a society, as imagined by her, wherein a man chooses a profession to spend his life doing what satisfies his passion and to earn a living as opposed to serving the society. Nevertheless, a one-dimensional view on this could be dangerous, as most people who belong to the society, inadvertently contribute to it's net dynamics.
The philosophy of objectivism, like any other philosophical doctrine, is not flawless. Much as it may seem wondrous, a man rising to achieve great heights in one's life without any ill-will, help from others etc is a concept that is way too fantastic to be true.
Secondly, the philosophy abhors charity as a whole. This is senseless, because, even if one considers charity to be, in no way enriching, I don't see how it is degrading to the greatness of human beings.
Now, re-tracing my way to the stem of the topic, I think selfishness, i.e "To think about oneself before anyone else" is fine as long as one does not act at the cost of someone else. nevertheless, making an effort to be selfish, thereby, ignoring the ones you love, even as it pains you to do so, is, I feel, nothing but stupidity.
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